When I was in my early twenties, Mike Sapienza (aka Sap) and I were inseparable.
It was Mike, Danny, Steve and I.
There was never a question about if we were hanging out.
The only question was about what the adventure was going to look like.
We would spot each other’s cars from a quarter mile away, flash our lights, pull over and declare the where and when.
One time we decided we would put on suits and sunglasses to bet on the dogs.
We walked Oceans 11 style into the Seabrook dog track, like we owned the place…
Steve’s uncle had a lead on a greyhound named Sack-O-Nuts…
It was a sure thing.
After we each had lost $20 we decided to lose the suits and head to the beach.
Many of our other shenanigans will never see the light of day.
For years we moved as a pack and it was beyond fun.
There was however, one exception to our togetherness.
It came five days a week at 6:30 AM.
That was when Mike went to the gym.
Didn’t matter how late he was out the night before or what was planned for the day, at 6:30AM he was at the Cedardale Athletic Club, working out.
We’d give him a hard time about it and he’d brush it off.
Once when it was just he and I, I asked him how he did it,
In that question I was acknowledging how impressed I was by his commitment.
I have never forgotten his response.
Mike looked me in the eye and said
“Its the price I pay for the life I lead”
He offered nothing more on the subject, nor did he need to.
You have longings…
Some feel more like pipe dreams and others are less grandiose.
A healthy relationship…
To be part of a community…
To have a real friend…
You know your longings better than I do.
Your desires beg the following question.
Are you willing to pay the price for the life you want?
If your answer is “no”, then good on you for being honest.
If your answer is yes here are a few thoughts to get you going.
– Stop blaming other people for your lack of action.
You are in your drivers seat. God gave you a will and a calling. They are there for you to engage, so make sure you are not expecting someone else to drive your bus.
– Don’t expect someone else to pay your dues.
Like the first tip, this one is about your life not coming at the expense of others. Consider the people you love and depend on. There is no greater drain on a relationship than when the dreamer taxes their partner and then makes them feel like they are to blame because they were not supportive enough.
– If you are waiting for the right time, it will never come.
The perfect time to start is now and by now I mean right now. You could choose to stop reading and take meaningful action in the direction of your heart…
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