Kick your “can’t” to the curb…



When Alison married me I was 430lbs

Can you imagine?

She is 4’11” and a perfect weight for her height.

(see what I did there?)

We will have been married for fourteen years this June and I am literally half the size I was back then.

Yesterday I found myself in  a role that had you told me fourteen years ago I would be in, I would have thought you were out of your mind.

Yesterday I got to play the role of my wife’s personal trainer.

I was as surprised as you are right now!

We walked into planet fitness, got her logged in as my guest and made our way to the elliptical machine, got her set up with a thirty minute, level three, interval workout.

She rocked it.

I have to admit that she rocked it way harder than I expected.

Very impressive.

Our next move was a mix of crunches and push ups.

Crunches on the crunch thing were a bit of a slow start but she got into her stride.

I could tell that her hesitation was beginning to grow.

“ok babe, push up time! Ready?”  I asked.

“Ummmm….. ok?” she replied her voice clearly uncertain.

I got her a mat and began to show her the starting position for a “modified” push up.

“I can’t” she said… “I can’t do this…. I can’t”

In total she offered seven “I can’ts” and then something happened.

I invited her to just do one.

One and done.

We made a few adjustments to where her hands were in relation to her shoulders and got her toes up off the ground.

She was poised for the one, greatest, modified pushup that the world has ever seen.

She didn’t do one…

After saying “I can’t” seven times and then having been asked to do just one, she didn’t.

She did twenty eight!

She got to seven and I said wow, lets get to ten.

Ten came and went and I said, jeez babe you’ve got twenty in you?

I counted them out for her and as my tone of voice shifted in one of certain completion, I said the word twenty.

She just kept going.

Twenty eight in total.

I can’t

Seriously I can’t

You don’t understand…


I can’t

It feels so true.

You’d pass a lie detector test if they asked you whether or not you believed you could.

Last week I was confronted with a couple “I can’ts” of my own.

With a few adjustments and an attainable goal Ali was able to accomplish what only moments earlier she was convinced she couldn’t.

What are you certain you can’t do?

What have you convinced yourself that you can’t have?

Who are you sure you can’t be?

Let’s start there but let’s not stop there.

I have my sites set on something I know I can’t do.

I’ll be making an announcement about it  soon.

I can’t…
I can…

I did…

I can’t…

I can…

I did…

I can’t…

I can…

I did…

You get the point…

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One thought on “Kick your “can’t” to the curb…

  1. I’m living the biggest can’t I could imagine, and I CAN because He prepared me for it, clearly led me to it, gives me peace and joy, and enough CAN for each day, every day! Seriously, He is so in control!

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